To answer your question. If you had a husband that is concerned with your safety, i'm pretty sure he wouldn't want you travling alone. It's pretty obvious, you don't have one. Pitty to see a woman at your age single : (

For one thing there is NO WAY in hell would my hubby let me go travel alone. Except to europe to visit family.

At my "age" I have everything I could possibly want! Thank you. With your arrogance
and your apparent need to have someone at your side at all times, I only hope you will be as fortunate.

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ahh, mira la solieto china con ojos pequina. estas enojado porque tienes nada!...My significant other? H'es called a "husband" hopefully if your lucky maybe you to shall have it too. I'm very happy & my hubby loves me a tremendous amount & spoils me way too much. I'm just grateful that I will never have to worry about getting lonely & old. Being married is called a a partnership. We help each other out. We have the same bank acct. I guess that's kinda dirty to leech of your b/f but marriage is an entire new ball game. Maybe if you open up your "slanted eyes" a bit more you can understand, how it works.

let's just say if u think u're happy and lucky, good for u..
that you'll never have to worry being lonely and old... that's very subjective, bcuz .. nobody knows what's gonna happen somewhere down the road, but i guess for a person with such narrow viewpoints like urself is living under a web of false security.. if u find it adaptive to cushion urself with, fine. but i guess some ppl think they seem to have such a diverse world view when they're actuallly viewing it from a highly ethnocentric and very narrow lens.

marriage is an entirely new ballgame? i beg to differ. personally, i come from a family with amazing marriages and partnerships, but it takes balance and equity. why then do marriages dissolve?

i worked as a private investigator, tracking broken marriages and cheating spouses, and let me tell u this: it's the kinda spouses that spoil u nuts and who apparently love u to the core that are havin a secret life outside. it does not only apply to my local context which has many different ethnic groups and nationalities, but also to other countries and cultures as well. so don't be too smug.

i don't have to be angry or enojado about not having an s.o. or whatsoever. i'm still young, with all my goals to be achieved, rather than living my life centered around a man. i have men in my life, hot dates and such, it's my choice if i don't wanna be tied down. independence is the name of the game. because if all u wanna do is leech and such, live ur life revolved around a pivotal point, it's gonna become wayyy tooo boring. for the man and the woman. marginal utility won't even be zero. it'd be sub-zero.

as for ur point of u being cultured living here and there, with all ur languages spoken, yadayada... that's not called cultured. that's called artificial, spurious, precious "culture". and those to call those 3 adjectives derogratory would be an understatement. people who declared themselves cultured are actually the ones most lacking in it, having a heightened sense of identity is inversely relational to actually having the cultural content.

if ur mindset is stuck somewhere in some repressed context, pls do not attempt to apply it and force it onto people who are actually living in the real, diverse world. ur judgements of "whore island", "slanted eyes" and "googly eyes".. should be applied to u instead.

and pls do not attempt to type in broken forms of languages like ur "los ojos pequina". it's pathetically hilarious, and it just goes to show ur extent of (lack of) cultural content.

i'd like to end off with this: beauty, foresight, wisdom and cunning-- all 4 weapons women need to have to survive in this world. take good care of ur looks, sauda, because u do not have any other weapons at ur disposal.

well well.. i expected this reply and slamming abt my looks, my dad, my family, my upbringing and such

like manu said, u put ppl down to feel better. psych 101. basic stuff. i won't bother arguin with u and ur self esteem maintaenance cuz u're motivated into seein things the way u do.. so be it.

for ur information, i do not have slanted eyes. u can go on criticizin me like how u've done with others, criticizin their upbringing, slamming their homes, callin them pig stys and all. go ahead. and i'm not china, dearie, i'm a singaporean peranakan-chinese. get ur geographical bearings and locations right. and u juz reek of freakin racism and ethnocentricism. there u r thinkin i work my arse off livin month to month? how the hell can u be certain of that? becuz i don't. it's amusing how u make the fallacy of judgemental reductionism... stuff like "maybe ur father was this.... that..". it's too freakin simplistic. like the mind of a child who's in a lower developmental stage. i think development theorist piaget would say, preoperational thought?

i post pics not bcuz i need a navy man. neither do i need to be rescued. fyi, "rescued" juz reeks of this sad, innocent, pathetic, useless frail child. i post em becuz the album is juz my own mini-history. something i can look back upon. i do things on my own terms, not dependent on a man or anything. i do not need a green card thru a man, for your information. i have money and ability, and do things on my own. i know people from all sorts of cultures and countries in reality, the usa included, who've done things on their own accord and worked out real good. juz becuz ur circumstances were pretty sheltered doesn't mean everyone has to live life that way.

if i choose to work and go on my dates that's my life. that's my choice

what's wrong with speakin spanish. have u ever heard of the term globalization? whereby cultures meet and boundaries are blurred? then why do u speak ur "4 languages"? i live in a multicultural country and i travel around. i have my own interests to pursue, i'm familiar with my own singaporean and chinese cultures, so exploration of new areas is totally legitimized. not for u, i guess, who'd need to tag along with ur man

nobody is jealous of u, u are suffering from a severe case of spotlight consciousness, and think u're always right, the whole world is focusiin on u. u have a good marriage, good for u. but just don't be too certain of anything yet. perception isn't always reality. and the only reason why i rebutted on ur point is becuz how u impose the ideology of marriage onto others. haven't u heard of personal choice and freedom? holy crap, and like sam pointed out, like a child. it's just so sad how u think at 23, 26 or 30 year olds are old. go ahead, call me feo and shit. insult my nose, whatever flaws i have and stuff. i'm not perfect. looks are not the end-all-and-be-all. u may be pretty but it's all about substance. about respect. and since u don't give anyone in this thread any respect by insulting them all and putting them down, i won't hesitate to slam u.

oh, and don't worry, i haven't had any accidents so far. more like u, i guess ur prefrontal cortex and other higher cortical functions haven't really fully developed yet. it's sad, that at 23, they're still at such a childish state. or maybe, they'd never even developed cuz it's all plateaued.

that said. i don't wish to continue this futile exchange of words any longer. it's clear that u'll always think that u and ur points of views are superior and correct. sure thing, be embedded in such a sense of false consciousness. that's ur life choice, i respect that. and i'm pretty sure i won't be the last person u r slamming. mind u, we r living in post-modern times where viewpoints are diverse and there ain't any set rules; not in the premodern sort of thinking. or should i say prehistoric. seriously, get ur facts right before u talk and sound like a lil silly child. it's better to shut ur mouth and be thought of as a fool than open ur mouth and remove all doubt.

i was wondering if she would come back... she was all over several of the other tribes i belong to... she insulted a lot of belly dancers too...
part of me will miss the laughter i had at her expense... but i am very glad that she cannot bother or offend anyone anymore...

<<do u think sauda might re-pop up with another name? or an anagram of her name?>>

I was seriously wondering that myself?!! How funny! I sure hope not...I think she was who
she professed herself to be, i.e. not a man. Just crazy as a shit house rat with no
sense of moral boundaries.

YES! well said! :)

Absolutely!!! I agree, well said.

Margot, it's not selfish It's just common sense how a loving mother would act. It's probably how you were raised. Differnt people have different values & different morals. Most protective fathers would never let there daughter travel alone & again it's not selfish it's love. You do what you can to protect your family in this imperfect world. Maybe your father was absent in your life?